What is Marriage?
Marriage is a public or legal declaration of commitment to each other. Its a commitment to stay together through good and bad times, raise children together, and help each other for rest of the lives. Its a commitment to refrain from infidelity.
What Marriage is NOT?
Marriage is not Romance, It’s not life long honeymoon, or celebrations, photographs, and it’s not Freedom at all. On the contrary, its a commitment and a responsibility.
Romance is the first thing that goes out of your life once you get married. When you have responsibilities and commitment, freedom automatically takes a back seat.
What Makes Marriage Necessary?
Family: Marriage is a necessity to starting a family and having children. So, if you want to have children, you must get married. Things have changed in the western countries but large part of world still does not approve of having children without marriage.
Society: In fact many people see it as a routine. You grow as child, study, start doing job, and get married. It’s what everyone does and so you must follow. Many people suffer from social anxiety when they see their friends getting married while they are still a bachelor. There is a fear that they may soon be too old for finding a good match.
Life Partner: Marriage also gives you a kind of reassurance that you have a committed partner to support through life’s ups and downs and that you won’t be lonely at old age.
Financial Security: Several people see marriage as a lottery/jackpot. Most girls look for rich boys that could support them financially. Similarly, some boys search for a working girl that could help them in sharing lifestyle expenses. Some may expect a large amount in dowry.
Why Marriage is a Problem?
Marriage is nothing but a commitment that brings loads of expectations from each other. Less mature couples expect even more. And that is the primary problem with marriage.
These days marriages don’t last long and therefore anyone seeking a lifelong partner in marriage is making a mistake, especially in countries where divorce rate is over 40%. I am not against divorce. If a husband and wife really cannot live together, instead of leading a miserable life and harboring more jealousy, anger and hatred, they should have the liberty to separate and live peacefully.
Is Marriage Really Necessary?
Freedom Lovers: Marriage is a man made custom that is un-natural and maybe outdated for many of freedom lovers. If freedom is what you value the most, then marriage is not for you. You should choose to stay celibate. Alternatively, find a sugar baby or sugar daddy.
You can live without kids or you can adopt a child in later years of your life or get your own kids through IVF or surrogacy.
Non Freedom Lovers: If you are not obsessed with freedom and have an adjusting nature, then you have a good chance of finding a partner who may stay with you for life long. What you can do to find a compatible partner? – Stay cautious of your karmas and never hurt anybody. Good karmas will make you a simple person, and only simple and kind people will enjoy your company and become friends with you. One of them will be your life partner.
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